What You See Is What You Get

It's just no fun having 600 pounds of metal draped across your body as you lay in a parking lot! I can tell you this from personal experience.

My problem is I'm a daydreamer--one of the reasons I stopped riding a motorcycle. In riding, where you look is where the bike will take you. Look down, and down you'll go! Still, I would like to think I looked graceful when falling to the ground all those times. (I'm just trying to make myself feel better!)

Riding a motorcycle is sometimes like living life. What you see is what you get! Look at a tree, and soon you and your bike will be kissing the tree. Look down into a gutter, and that's where you'll land. Look through a curve in the highway and your bike will take you effortlessly and efficiently through the curve. Just don't lose your train of thought and stare down at the road!

In life, if you picture the worst in your mind's eye, you will act in such a way as to bring that picture to life. If you visualize love, happiness and success, you will choose behaviors that bring you love, happiness and success.When was the last time you thought something bad was going to happen and it did!

Sometimes people tell me that they "have trust issues". They've loved someone who cheated on them or left them.They've been disappointed in love. They've been hurt badly in relationships they hoped would be loving.

Here's what I know: if you're afraid to trust others, you will become overly protective of yourself. You will be guarded and not let others in. You won't allow yourself to be vulnerable. You might even be hard on others, expecting them to prove to you that they're trustworthy.

Your new relationship isn't going to work out any differently than what you've experienced in the past, I hate to say! You're a nice person, and you deserve to have a great relationship, but that's not what you're going to get.

Your eyes are the closest sense to your brain. What you "see" registers with the brain. Your brain directs your body to move accordingly. What you see is what you get.

Creating a great relationship calls for one to give trust, be open, be vulnerable--over time, that is. Yes, it seems counter-intuitive that when you're anxious about being hurt you would open your heart to someone and take a chance.

There's so much more to this topic. We'll look more closely at trust and relationships in future blogs.

What do you think? Please feel free to let me know! Also, let me know if I can share your comments, thoughts and questions with other readers. Thanks! Anita O'D.